Downlo

Critiques of rape, pornography, and prostitution are “sex-negative” without qualification or examination, perhaps because so many men use these ignoble routes of access and domination to get laid, and without them the number of fucks would so significantly decrease that men might nearly be chaste.

(TW: rape) They [male pornstars/pornographers] rape women. I can’t even begin to tell you how many girls are ‘out of it’ while huge men, maybe five or six men, are on this one female, raping her.

It’s a male-dominated industry, yet, a lot of people go: “Well, don’t women choose,” and I say: “Based on what education do these women make an informed decision about being in the porn industry. All they see, is one side: glamour. They see other pornstars going - ‘I Love It!’ or maybe a couple contract girls, who are really what the porn industry use to show people, ‘This is really what porn is!’ when it’s not true.”

The contract girls are not the majority. The majority of women in the porn industry, are 18 and 19, 20 year old girls, who are first-timers, who they picked up online, facebook or myspace, craigslist or sexyjobs and they promise the girls: “Hey, just come here for modelling - just bikini modelling!” - and the girls are excited…

and then you fly there and then you find out your in some hotel with some [sleazy] pornographer..

…and they don’t care how many times she says: “No, stop. I can’t. Please stop, it hurts.” They don’t stop and I have the footage to prove it.

I don’t have a problem with porn in the slightest, as a concept. But what feminists who support porn need to remember is that while we have elaborate theories about fantasy and consent, a lot of men engage with porn because they view it as an ideological statement of men’s right to dominate and control women. There’s a reason that it’s more popular in red states than blue states. A lot of male users—-possibly most!—-see it just as a fantasy to rub one out to, and a lot of women look at porn. But for some men, especially the ones obsessed by it like these Reddit dudes, it’s not really about sexual arousal. They use it to soothe themselves by imagining women are beneath them. That’s why they’re not satisfied with porn where everyone is consenting and paid.