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"No man is in any real physical danger on the internet— or even in real life — from feminists. Women are regularly beaten and raped — even on college campuses — but I know of no instance where a man found himself a victim of violence for making a sexist remark in a feminist setting."

— Hugo Schwyzer, on the use of the term “male bashing” (via scarlettshazam)

(Source: michellehaimoff, via sequined-k)

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"This is often how you fight sexism in ordinary life. You don’t dive in front of that Afghani girl about to take a bottle of acid to the face and shoot the guy attacking her. You just influence the people around you by expression your opinions forcefully. […] Pro Tip: “Afghanistan, infinite no backsies!” is not a valid argument to the effect that a given woman should shut up about some given topic."

Belle Waring, 10 Problems Women Need to Fix Before They Can Complain About Problems With Popular New Software, On a Blog

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Victim-blaming and social control

Amanda Marcotte on rape prevention ‘tips’:

[T]hese “tips” are actually a list of reasons that it’s okay to rape someone. If the tip is, “Don’t wear miniskirts”, that ends up saying to rapists, juries, and cops, “If she was wearing a miniskirt, she had it coming.” Rapists basically use these tips as a checklist for what to look for in potential victims…it’s a keep-yourself-from-going-to-jail strategy. If you attack drunk women, women who have a history of having (gasp!) sex, women who are wearing miniskirts after dark, then your chances go up of not getting caught. Your victims will be afraid to come forward, the cops won’t take it seriously, juries will let you off. So every time you pass around a “how not to get raped” list, you’re saying to rapists, “Here are the women you can rape and we, as a society, will allow it.”

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"If men’s magazines do, on occasion, speak pejoratively of women, women’s magazines, by and large, speak pejoratively to women."

Agreed. (via cheatsheet)

(via cheatsheet)

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Discourse, male privilege, and women’s lived experiences

Men build discursive spaces and discursive norms based on their own experience. And for instance, in a male-built discursive space, a threat of sexual violence may be viewed by male participants as an obvious joke. After all, the vast majority of men will never experience sexual violence in their lifetime. (Fewer than 4% of men will be sexually assaulted.) And so within the context of a male discussion on a World of Warcraft forum, for instance, it may seem entirely innocuous to use ideas of sexual violence to express one’s views on the game, or to use “rape” as a verb to describe one’s gameplay skills.

Women as a group have a vastly different experience with the idea of sexual violence. One in six women will be a victim of sexual assault during her lifetime. (Yes, some men are also sexual assault victims. But the numbers are overwhelmingly female — about 90% of sexual assault victims are women.) Rape is not an abstract idea or an obvious joke. For thousands of women, it is an immediate and extremely painful reality.

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The same goes for statements about violence in general. In a male-dominated discursive space, it may be viewed as normal to make aggressive, threatening statements. However, men’s and women’s experiences with violence are also vastly different. One in four women in the United States has been a victim of domestic violence. Suddenly, the joke about wanting to punch somebody else isn’t so funny.

(Source: feministlawprofessors.com)

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But when programmers are mostly dudes, the lady-stuff just gets… ignored. So Siri knows 15 different ways to say “oral sex performed on a man” and can find a place to get it, but anything involving female sexuality at all leaves her clueless. Which doesn’t make it excusable.

It’s pretty appalling that programmers thought far ahead enough to know where to send users who needed to remove rodents from their buttholes, but didn’t consider a medical procedure that 1 in 3 American women will have. I mean, they appear to have thought far ahead enough to have Siri respond to the boyfriend of the woman who is pregnant, but not to the woman herself.

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Jill Filipovic, Feministe

TP blogger Alyssa Rosenberg says Siri may not be sexist, but Silicon Valley has its sexist tendencies.

(via think-progress)

(via think-progress)

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Evolutionary psychology bingo
My favorites:
“Men evolved not to see dirt; they need their sharp eyes for hunting”
“Believes women talk more than men, but for some reason won’t let you get a word in edgewise.”

Evolutionary psychology bingo

My favorites:

“Men evolved not to see dirt; they need their sharp eyes for hunting”

“Believes women talk more than men, but for some reason won’t let you get a word in edgewise.”

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