I have seen some conversation about the term Special Snowflake. Well, I never thought that a Special Snowflake is someone who is going to great lengths to be an individual. That would just make everyone a Special Snowflake every day and that’s just too easy. I didn’t realize that others definition deviated
Here’s my definition:
A Special Snowflake is someone who thinks that they are being different, and being an individual, when really they’re thoughts and/or actions are upholding an often oppressive status quo that is widely accepted by the majority.
For example, a girl who say that “all women are bitches, rude, catty, always PMSing, but I’m different cause all my friends are guys and I’m cool and I’m not over dramatic or emotional.” <—- I call that a case of being a Special Snowflake because that girl thinks her point of view makes her an individual, when it’s really just internalized sexism which validates misogynistic roles and stereotypes. Teenagers who believe that they are individuals by saying that they all other teenagers are stupid and only care about sex or that they’re all rude, etc. are Special Snowflakes because that’s not news. You’re not being an individual by treating the group that you are in autonomously and complaining that everyone is a stereotype except for you, you’re just enforcing the status quo. And that is the core of being a Special Snowflake.
And really, I think that’s a more appropriate definition. I don’t care if someone really wants to differentiate themselves and be individuals, but I do care when people are trying to be “different” when they’re just relishing in widely-accepted oppression.
(Also, I have not found sufficient evidence to conclude that the term “Special Snowflake” is being used en masse to dismiss non-binary or disabled people, but that is another issue I suppose.)