desperatelyseekingvalentino said: Am I not allowed to talk about race then? Because I'm white? Isn't that racism? I'm not offended by french maid costumes, I'm french. I'm not offended by hillbilly costumes with broken teeth, and I'm from the south. I'm not offended by fat costumes and I'm fat. I'm not offended by blonde jokes and I'm blonde. I'm not rampaging through the streets when people dress as Barbie and I'm a feminist. I'm not trying to incite a fight, I love your blog. But what are you trying to achieve?
I’m so glad Derailing for Dummies exists. It’s a great time- and sanity-saver to be able to just post links instead of having to write new responses each time I’m presented by the same old unexamined privilege:
Am I not allowed to talk about race then?
You’re ‘allowed’ to do whatever you want. I’m not the government and I’m not your mommy. This isn’t about freedom of speech. This is about you saying something stupid and getting criticized for it. Criticism isn’t censorship.
Because I’m white? Isn’t that racism?
OK, I’ll admit it: I slapped a gag order on you to prevent you from discussing racism because you’re White. I JUST HATE WHITE PEOPLE SO MUCH!
I’m not offended by french maid costumes, I’m french. I’m not offended by hillbilly costumes with broken teeth, and I’m from the south. I’m not offended by fat costumes and I’m fat. I’m not offended by blonde jokes and I’m blonde. I’m not rampaging through the streets when people dress as Barbie and I’m a feminist.
1) It is fucking hilarious that you bring up French maid outfits as stereotypically French.
2) Historically, blondes have not been persecuted for being blonde. In fact, being blonde has usually conferred all sorts of advantages. That’s why blonde jokes don’t bother you. For every blonde joke there is, there are a thousand more women bleaching their hair.
3) Are you from Appalachia? Did you grow up in a trailer park in West Virginia? I suspect not. The hillbilly thing is more of a class stereotype than a regional stereotype. That’s why hillbilly and redneck costumes don’t bug all southern people.
4) I must be a bad feminist. I can’t recall the last time I rampaged through the streets for any reason, let alone because “people dress as Barbie”.
I’m not trying to incite a fight, I love your blog.
You love the parts that don’t make you uncomfortable.
But what are you trying to achieve?
I’m tempted to answer your question with another question (namely: what are you trying to achieve?), but I know the answer already (to derail and gaslight). So I’ll give you an answer: By talking about race and racism, I’m trying to inform, enlighten, and vent some steam.
Y’know, the wording of that question makes me think that you suspect me of more nefarious purposes…like an anti-White agenda. Which explains you accusing me of being racist toward you for being White.
Look: My discussions about racism are about racism. They are not about making you (as a White person) feel bad. If the latter happens, that’s you putting your shit on me, not me “trying to achieve” something. Not everything is about you!